Your Identity Has To Come From Somewhere

Your identity comes from somewhere

We all have an identity defined. It’s impossible not to. So, if it’s there, it has to come from somewhere.

Where do you get yours?

Boyfriend? Grades? How many people like you? I have tried to get mine from just about everything over the years.

  • How hot guys thought I was
  • If “he” wanted to talk to me
  • If “he wanted to talk to me instead of HER
  • Body/weight. If I weighed ___ then I felt super confident, hot, great about myself. If I weighed __ above that, I felt disgusting, ugly, didn’t want to go anywhere.

I learned the hard way (many times) that identity anywhere other than God is not the kind of identity that can give us a confidence that stays. There is one place in particular I have gone over and over and over again trying to seek identity that has always failed me, so I want to zoom in on it for a minute.

Our identity cannot come from a guy

It doesn’t matter if he is the perfect boyfriend or the worst cheater in the world. Unless his name is Jesus and He died on a cross and came back to life to save you, he is not capable of handling the weight of a girl’s identity in a fallen world.

Guys were not made to define us, so they can’t, and that’s why we see it being the cause of so much hurt and drama. As girls it’s so easy to seek self-worth in guys, but when that breaks in whatever way it inevitably does we break too, because

Whatever we give permission to make us we also give permission to break us

And if we give the permission to break us to something that’s already broken (a guy)…yeah.

When we try to find our identity in a guy (or guys) we will 1) exhaust them 2) constantly be insecure 3) both, because it will never be enough.

As humans, we are only capable of seeing so much about each other. We see the outside and we observe parts of the inside of the people we are close to but what we see is very limited.

“For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

Because God sees straight through us to our hearts, He is the one who holds the solutions to all of the things that break it, hurt it, trip it up, make it feel insecure. And let’s be honest here…when something hurts you, like REALLY hurts you, is it your outside appearance that suffers the most or your heart? So then how does it make sense to lean on someone who either only sees the outside or part of the inside?

No one knows us better than God. No one CAN know us better than God. Do we really want to put our value and worth in someone or something that can’t see the deepest parts of us?

Identity that comes from the one who KNOWS YOU is the only identity that actually makes any sense at all.

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I Can’t Walk Away

Note: Even if you aren’t dealing with this situation right now, I can 99.9% guarantee you or one of your best friends (or both) will at some point.

First, know that this is not a “back in the day” message. Yes I experienced it back in the day but I have experienced it many times since (more than I hope any of you have to) and in fact, I am fighting through it right now. Y’all probably know I recently went through a breakup after dating someone for about a year, but what y’all don’t know is this breakup is different than any other breakup I’ve ever had (and there have been a lot of them, lol).

Let’s just say in the past I’ve never done well with breakups. Most of them have been…extremely dramatic and even more painful. I’m talking cry until you throw up – refuse to eat or be a real human for a month – call him one million times – drive to his house when he won’t answer kind of bad. And the him not answering phase was usually expected because I could never truly walk away for good…unless I could land in the arms of some new guy.

Y’all, we can’t afford to let guys take and take and take and take from our hearts anymore. Our self-worth and identity is already challenged to a ridiculous extent on a daily basis because of the society we live in. We have to guard our hearts against anyone who makes it even harder.

The mind game: thinking that earning this one person’s approval, affection or attention is the standard for feeling better about ourselves. But it’s not – and while we scramble trying be good enough, our heart is leaking self-image and confidence. Before we know it, we’re worse off than we were before, and much quicker to jump into the next “challenge” in the form of a guy who does not pursue us the way we deserve to be pursued.

Truth we don’t want to hear:

Pretending something isn’t what it is won’t keep you from getting hurt.

Maybe you can relate to what it feels like to love and lose, then love and lose some more until you really can’t tell the difference between the two. Maybe you’ve felt like I did when I pretended I wasn’t in a bad situation because  I didn’t want to face the overwhelming mess of pieces my heart had become...alone.

The good news is that we don’t actually have to face things alone. I know because when I reached the point where I literally could not do it anymore, God was the only one who could help me. And He did. What I want y’all to hear is that it’s NOT necessary to get to that point!

The temporary pain of losing something that is hurting you is better than having to face the time and additional pain it takes to overcome all of the damage down the road.

It’s like cleaning your room. You know you eventually have to clean it but you don’t want to so you let the mess pile up for weeks, making the task of cleaning it way worse when you finally have to.

It’s not an easy thing. I won’t pretend that dealing with it right now is a breeze – it sucks. But although I still wrestle with moments of feeling lonely, insecure and missing someone being there, I have been amazed at how much God has protected my heart. Before I broke up with him I remember driving down the road sobbing my eyes out telling God

I feel like you’re telling me to break up with him. If you want me to walk away, I know you promise it’s for my good, but I don’t feel like I can believe that right now. If you want me to and if you really do have my best interest at heart, I NEED you to change my heart. You have to change it to give me the courage to walk away because otherwise I can’t do this. It feels impossible and I don’t even want to. Please make me brave enough to do it and then please protect my heart from what is normally hurts like hell.

I’ve heard the verse But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9) many times but right now I am living it and you can too. I would not be OK if it weren’t for God completely protecting my heart and keeping me strong. Praying this for each of you, whether it’s applicable now or later.

PS – remember I would not be able to say this stuff if it were not part of my REAL life.

Love y’all.

What’s In Your Purse?

She’s walking through the mall with her arms full of stuff. So full it looks like she might drop it all any minute now. You take a closer look at what she’s carrying and see there’s a brush, a tiny mirror, a wallet, pens, mini hairspray, tissues, coins, keys, bobby pins, and many other items that we typically carry in a purse. Then you notice something even stranger. She is also carrying a purse – an empty purse. What in the world? She must have seen you staring because all of a sudden she beelines in your direction. As she approaches you she asks for your advice…she tells you she can’t carry everything (oh really, I didn’t notice). She complains that things keep dropping and says she is just at the end of her rope.

“What do I do?!”

“Well…” you try not to sound condescending…”why don’t you put your stuff in your purse?”

“My purse? That PURSE is the biggest hassle out of all of these things. In fact, I’m glad you pointed it out, it’s got to go. If I get rid of the biggest burden everything else will be more manageable.”

She angrily throws the purse to the ground and stomps off as nail polish and lipstick fall at her feet.

I don’t know about you but if this happened to me I would get a good laugh as she stormed away (and hope the nail polish she left behind was a cute color).

But do you know that we do this all the time with God?

When we try to take on life’s problems alone instead of letting God help us, we do exactly what this girl was doing with the contents of her purse. We fall into the trap of thinking we can handle things better than God can. One by one we take our problems, situations, struggles and we stack them up in our arms. God is right there, wanting so badly to help us, but we keep piling it on ourselves.

The more we empty our purse and fill our arms up instead, the more of a hassle the purse seems to be.

When we move away from God and try to handle life in our own the same scenario happens. We stop going to Him for help, we stop trusting Him with things we don’t want to lose. We stop talking to Him, reading our Bible, looking for Him in life. Before long our relationship with God feels like the burden, when really it’s the burden of life without him that breaks us.

God doesn’t want to take up more room in our lives to inconvenience us, he wants to do the opposite. He wants to carry us and our problems through life so the burdens are bearable and we don’t have to handle them alone.

Life is never going to be problem-free. If you are anything like me, there’s always something else I can jam into my purse and it tends to quickly become a jumbled mess of things. But even if they seem tangled up, the things I need are there, all in one place, held together for me instead of falling through my arms.

Let’s not try to ease the load by getting rid of the very thing that is capable of holding it for us.

“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke* upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

*Yoke: what goes over an animal’s neck/shoulders when they pull a plow or a cart  

When You’re Stuck In A Burning Building

Picture this:

You are in a burning building. A firefighter comes in and hands you an oxygen mask. You can take it or choose not to, it clearly doesn’t change whether or not you are in the fire. It does however, give you a fighting chance. Without air you are doomed either way but if you have something life-giving that can sustain you as you maneuver your way through the burning building, well, hello?

But the building IS burning so if I don’t breathe the smoke I’m just ignoring something that is real.

If I use a mask I am basically just taking the easy way out and not facing the hurt.

But no, I can’t, nobody else is using the mask so they will think that I am weird.

… really? 

Hold that thought.

In today’s society it is so hard to feel like we are good enough.

Whether it’s our bodies, our clothes, our grades, our boyfriends, the list goes on – this world is quick to define us based off of different things every day. The standards we hold ourselves to are not even consistent; what is “great” is always changing. It leaves us in an exhausting cycle of broken self-esteem.

We can’t possibly be “good enough” for every standard, but we are trained to think we have to, and that leads to a constant identity crisis.

Here’s the thing, your identity and worth were established long ago when Jesus died on the cross. So were mine. That cannot be undone, regardless of whether you believe it or not. You didn’t earn it, and you can’t lose it. You can only choose whether or not to believe it.

If you were the only person on this earth, Jesus would still have died on the cross for you. There is no one that can possibly level with that kind of value. There is no one who can begin to validate their right to define someone else against that. The life of a perfect man was voluntarily given so that you could be free from sin. His death broke the chains that our world wants us to remain living in.

We don’t have to live in them. Our identity is already decided and is not able to be changed – Jesus can’t be less or more dead than he was. He can’t come back to life anymore than He did. There is nothing that can change it.

One of the hard arguments we tend to give is “but the reality is that ___ is what people think is good enough”.

So when (not if, but when) you are not enough for something or someone in this world, what does it mean? Why choose to accept God’s definition of you instead of someone else’s?

Our culture is a burning building. The flames and smoke are the rejection, the hurt, the people who cause both. God hands us an oxygen mask – a way to survive instead of suffocating.

At this point, putting on the mask will not only allow you to fight through what wants to destroy you, it also enables you to help others who don’t have the gift of an oxygen mask.

Personally, I prefer the ability to breathe. 

LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH

 

Meet The Star of The Football Team

Brett is the star of the football team (he’s also hot but that’s beside the point). It’s the championship game, and his team is winning. They push down the field for one more touchdown before the clock runs out. Suddenly his coach calls a timeout.

“Brett, instead of  a touchdown I want you to go up to the top of the bleachers and fly down.”

….What?

“If you land on your feet, we win. If you don’t, we lose.”

Are you kidding me? Why?

“Because that’s what I decided it will take to win the game.”

Odds are Brett is going to accept a loss and walk away from the situation confused and thinking his coach is nuts. If he wants to win the game SO badly that he tries to do the impossible, the outcome is obvious. He tries and fails. He still walks away with a loss, the only difference is there’s a lot more pain involved.

The team lost because Brett couldn’t do what was asked of him. It wasn’t possible. The coach changed the game and added new requirements that Brett could not possibly meet. Humans can’t fly.

How does that relate to us? We often do this exact same thing when we get into a relationship with a guy. Things seem to be going well, moving in a good direction, when suddenly the wheels come off. Why? We expect him to fill, fix, maintain or create things that only God can handle.

Security. Self-image. Self-worth. Identity

How do you know if you are doing this? When the things that get taken from you or given to you as a result of a change in the relationship are able to totally knock you off balance or hold you completely still.

When he doesn’t text you and your entire night is not only ruined, you can’t even think straight.

When he admits he likes you and suddenly you don’t feel fat anymore. You don’t hate your body like you did 5 minutes ago.

When he asks you out and all of a sudden you actually like yourself. You finally feel like you are worth something.  

When he breaks up with you and you hate everything about the way you look. Ugly. Disgusting.

“For He satisfies the longing soul and fills the hungry soul with good things” Psalm 107:9

“Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst.” John 6:35

Two things to remember:

  1. A good relationship or situation should add to your life, not make your life.
  2. A bad relationship or situation should hurt, not completely destroy you.

If the first is where you are, let’s focus on finding your identity and foundation in God so the second doesn’t happen. If you are currently feeling the second, know that God is not scared of the mess. He is right here and ready to rescue you if you will let Him.

If you don’t really feel like you are in either of those categories, ask yourself:

  1. Am I looking to him for something he wasn’t made to give me? Something only God can give me?
  2. If he were to walk away, I would be hurt, but would I still be able to stand? Would my entire world be crushed?

Don’t worry if you need to refocus, we all do! It’s a great thing to recognize and very doable. We can do it together.

Giving Up On “Good Enough”

Do you ever walk in a room and all of a sudden feel like your clothes get tighter, less flattering, maybe that color doesn’t really look that good on you? I should have worn that other shirt. Ugh. Then when a certain guy doesn’t talk to you and no one gives you a single compliment, you go home feeling like that’s the reason. I didn’t look pretty enough. I definitely didn’t look as good as [insert girls name who was getting all of the attention from the guys]. I need to work out so a crop top looks that good on me. Sound familiar?

Or maybe some of you have boyfriends and feel a little more secure about your physical appearance, but struggle with not feeling good enough overall. Maybe it’s because of grades, maybe it’s because you have an older sister who seems to be perfect in every area you aren’t. Maybe his ex-girlfriend was the start of the soccer team. Maybe his friend has a “cool” girlfriend who doesn’t seem to care about anything and fits in with the guys so well…does he wish you were more like that? Maybe you get bored with his attention and want someone else’s, but everyone knows you have a boyfriend so that must be the reason guys never really give you the time of day…right?

Even if those particular scenarios don’t really sound familiar, we all struggle with areas where we feel insecure or feel like we will never be good enough. We try so hard to focus on fixing that area but as soon as we do, another area always becomes the problem.

You lose the weight but you aren’t as fun as she is.

You try to be the cool girlfriend but you feel like you annoy everyone.

You pretend you don’t care about the rumors after your break up but your grades suck.

You feel prettier than his new girlfriend but you’ll never have a body like hers.

We have to recognize insecurity for what it is because the reality is that it isn’t tied directly to that certain thing you think will make you feel better if you can just get it. It goes deeper than that. Sure, there are things we can each strive to improve but it should not be out of desperation or dependency. We shouldn’t have to have ____ in order to be secure. Imagine if you could be secure and then work on whatever it is you want to change, whether that’s getting in the gym more or studying harder or asking for advice from someone who has been in your shoes before how to handle feeling like you annoy people. Ironically, insecurity pushes people away because it is a preoccupation with yourself. Think about that for a minute.

“Self-consciousness is acute self-awareness and a preoccupation with self” Beth Moore

Insecurity can make us act like idiots in friendships. Insecurity can blind us to how blessed we are. Insecurity can confine us. Insecurity can talk us into doing things we don’t even want to do. Insecurity can make us give entirely the wrong impression. Insecurity can make us overcompensate. Insecurity can keep us from accepting compliments and, far worse, from accepting love. Insecurity can make a fool out of us by making a liars out of us. Insecurity can turn us into posers. Insecurity can make us fake when all we want is to be real.

Isn’t it interesting that the things we do out of insecurity are often the very things that push people away from us, cause us to get in fights, or make us feel worse about ourselves? That’s because insecurity is a trap that Satan has used to trip women up for as long as we have existed (even Eve, he made her feel insecure about not having the “knowledge” the tree in the garden would give her, so she ate it).

Your challenges for this week:

Think about this: What are your triggers? Think hard about the things deep down that trigger your most insecure moments. Feel free to put them in the anonymous survey link at the top of this page and I will address them in future devotionals.

Take a minute to look up some verses that correlate with your triggers. I am happy to help if you want me to. Even if it sounds cliche, I want you to write the verses down and put them somewhere you can see them. I also want you to say them to yourself every time you see them, even if you don’t feel like you believe them. Even if it feels dumb. Trust me- it will help.

We have got to beat this awful trap that has ruined too much for us for too long!  We want to be the kind of woman Proverbs 31 describes: “She is clothed with strength and dignity. She laughs without fear of the future.” And we can be if we choose to take a stand and say “no more.” As we already know, the ONLY place we can find that kind of true security is in God. Let’s do it!

How Does God Feel About You?

Do you ever wonder about the dynamic between you and God? Like, what is really there. How does He really feel about you, and why? It’s easy to get caught up in the verses and stories, which are great, but when is the last time you really stopped to think about what would fill the air if it were just you and God in a room? Just the two of you.

If you could pause life and have nothing but truth in your head, Psalm 139 tells you what you would see, think and feel about God.

“O  lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!
I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from your presence!
If I go up to heaven, you are there;
if I go down to the grave, you are there.
If I ride the wings of the morning,
if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
even there your hand will guide me,
and your strength will support me.
I could ask the darkness to hide me
and the light around me to become night—
but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
Darkness and light are the same to you.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.
How precious are your thoughts about me, O God.
They cannot be numbered!
I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me…” Psalm 139

He loves you so. freaking. much.

Not Good Enough For Him?

He said he liked me. He said I was everything he ever wanted. So why didn’t he want to date me? Was I not good enough?

We have all experienced this or watched a friend go through it at some point.

5 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN THIS HAPPENS

1. It doesn’t mean you are not good enough.

Who decides what “good enough” means? There are over 160 Million men in the U.S. Which ones get to decide your worth and more importantly, WHY? Does that even make sense?

Do you want to date every guy in your life? Hopefully not. Does mean they are worth less than someone else? No.

You can’t possibly be right for everyone. God [thankfully] didn’t make us all the same.

I am obsessed with ice cream. I hate key lime pie. Peanut butter makes everything taste better to me. You couldn’t pay me to put coconut on top of my dessert.

Does that mean that ice cream and peanut butter are better tasting than anything else? Does it mean that key lime pie is gross or coconut is a bad idea? NO. To me, yes, because I (just like everyone else in the world) have my own taste buds that are different than yours, and the guy next to me at work, and the girl down the hall.

Someone “not wanting you” is not a reflection of you. It is, however, the reflection of a warning sign telling you to double check your self-worth and realize you are valuable enough to be pursued and wanted.

2. Actions speak louder than words.

If he says one thing but does another, what he does is the reality you need to accept right now. Anyone can say (or type) words. Snap chatting is not “making an effort” (I mean, really?)

3. It is up to YOU to listen to actions rather than words.

Don’t let yourself pretend words mean something when actions say otherwise.

The truth hurts sometimes, but choosing to see the truth now will hurt a lot less than having it blow up in your face down the road.

4. Feeling wanted in the moment is not worth compromising your true worth in the long run.

Trust me, I’ve tried it.

5. A relationship game has to have more than one player to be played.

You have a choice in whether or not you play.

You are not a game, so don’t let yourself be treated like one.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-15

True Life: Scared Of Trash Trucks

“The mind of man plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

This is going to sound like a really funny analogy (because it is) but humor me for a minute and I’ll explain.

Fun fact about me: I have a fear of the men who holler when girls run/walk by. The trash men in my particular area are these guys. So the other day when I went on a quick run (by run I mean I ran when cars passed and died when there were none) and saw the trash truck circling around my street, my typical escape thought process started and I tried to figure out how to avoid them. You will laugh at this, but I prayed I wouldn’t run into them. For a while I didn’t see them again (for me while I’m running a while = about 3 minutes). Then all of a sudden I turned the corner and saw them a ways up the road ahead near my house. DANGIT GOD. I asked you to keep them away I said in my head with a very annoyed tone. I looked around and saw that there was a road I could turn on to kill some time while I waited on them to drive away. But ugh- that required extra running. Whatever. I turned down the road still very annoyed when it hit me…God did exactly what I asked Him to.

I saw the truck when I turned the corner, in plenty of time to change directions and avoid them just like I wanted to. It required extra effort and wasn’t exactly convenient but it was what I had asked for nonetheless. I was mad that the situation up ahead was what it was, but I didn’t have to encounter it which is what I wanted originally.

Yes my example is funny, but how many times does God do this in our everyday lives and we react the way I did that day? I know that it happens all the time in my life. God allows us to see “danger” up ahead, whether it’s by explicitly telling us that something isn’t good for us or by that little feeling inside warning us that what is ahead is what we’re trying to avoid like regret, pain, consequences, etc. But it often requires extra effort to go a different direction and let’s be honest, it’s not always convenient. It’s easier in the moment to just ignore that voice and call God a fun-stealer.

In my example the trash truck was a pretty obvious sign of what I was trying to avoid, but in real life the “culprit” of hurt, shame, etc. isn’t always as obvious. What we tend to forget is that God doesn’t ask us to go a different way just for fun, He gives us an out before we reach what we don’t realize will cause us the very feelings and situations we are trying to avoid.

I knew every time I had sex with my boyfriend in high school that it wasn’t what I was supposed to be doing. I knew I shouldn’t have gone home those nights with those guys in college. I knew I shouldn’t have gotten drunk especially around the guy I was super tempted by. I knew that saying that about her would really hurt her feelings and make her feel the insecurity I hated feeling myself. I knew I needed to put up boundaries with that person but it was easier not to, and then I blamed God when I got hurt again?

Don’t underestimate that little voice inside of you that points out the right turn you can take before you reach what’s up ahead, even if it’s inconvenient at the time.

Trust Him. It’s worth it. He wants us to have the best lives possible – the most happiness, the least stressful, the most fulfilling. Let’s be honest- has this world given us that option?

“Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:6

And Then He Got A New Girlfriend

I was doing just fine. I didn’t miss him. I didn’t even really think about him anymore.

Until he got a new girlfriend.

Suddenly I was wasting more time than I would like to admit stalking her (and her family, let’s be real). All of her Instagram pictures, as much Facebook info as I could see without sending her a friend request, tweets for days.

Does she have a better body than me?

Is she prettier than I am? 

She sounds funny on Twitter

He never posted stuff like that with me

They look so happy, I bet he thinks she is way better than I ever was

I bet his friends and family like her more

Insecurities swept in quickly and took the place of my good mood. By August on Instagram (we won’t talk about what year I had reached) I was convinced I needed to go to the gym, obsessing over why I had let my hair grow out so long and wishing I had laid out a few days ago when I had the chance. After the third time of scrolling through their cute couple pictures from the other weekend, I was convinced that I missed him.

Wait. What? Why?

Because comparison is the thief of joy.

It really is. And it’s the thief of a lot of other things too.

It steals our security. It steals our friendships. It steals our time. It steals reality.

We all know what it feels like. We compare every detail and either walk away feeling better about ourselves because the mental tally says we “win”, or we feel two sizes larger and a whole lot uglier than we remember looking earlier that morning. Stupid mirror.

That day comparison stole my joy. It stole my confidence. It stole my desire to hang out with a friend after work who is also friends with the “new” girlfriend. Goodness knows it stole a lot of my time and it definitely stole my reality, because in reality I don’t miss him.

I’ve had enough of that. Haven’t you?

Thankfully there is good news. This is one area we have more control over than others. We can choose not to allow the thoughts of comparison to take over. As soon as they start creeping in, we can shut them down. Refuse to listen to their confusing stories.

So ask yourself this: What good can it do anyways? Regardless of whether comparing ourselves to someone else makes us feel better or worse for the moment, it always leads to a self-absorbed obsession with being good enough. And that, sweet friend, is an exhausting box to live in.

Regardless of whether comparing ourselves to someone else makes us feel better or worse for the moment, it always leads to a self-absorbed obsession with being good enough.

So I have a challenge for you. Take a minute to think about the things you have been blessed with – the good things about you, the gifts God has given you. Leave other people out of it. Make a list of things that you love about YOU.

If you’re having a hard time doing that, ask God to help you see yourself through His eyes. He doesn’t see you compared to others. He sees you as YOU – the you He created you to be.

And she is more than enough. What do you have to lose by choosing to believe that?

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14 

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