(A lot of the questions you guys have asked have are about the party scene and drinking. There are many parts to this topic, so the devotionals are going to come out in sections.)
I’m going to be really honest with y’all here – this topic in general was a hard one for me to write about. Not because I don’t know the answers, but because I know what it feels like to be in your shoes and because I know the high school Becca didn’t take this kind of thing seriously. I don’t want to sound like the same broken record that you hear from your parents. It’s important to me that y’all know that I did a lot of these things the wrong way when I was your age, which is big reason why I wanted to start this Bible study in the first place. I know both sides of the track. I made a lot of decisions that led to a lot of bad places, and now that I’m on the other side I understand how I got where I did and I can have these discussions from a place of real understanding. I really do get the pressures y’all feel when it comes to the party scene. Keep that in mind when you read this, OK?
So drinking. Why not?
Well, we have the obvious reason that your mom throws out there. It is against the law. Everyone has different opinions about different drinking ages, but God’s opinion is clear when he tells us to obey the law: “Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience.” Romans 13:5
When it comes to getting drunk, He is pretty clear too: “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith” 1 Peter 5:8-9
Some other things to think about…
FACT: Doing something that impairs your judgement leads you to make decisions you wouldn’t normally make. The next morning, just because the real you would not have done what the drunk you did doesn’t meant that the real you has to pay the consequences.
Example: If I let my 10-year-old cousin drive my car, and he wrecks it, who gets to take care of the damage? I do. MY car is the one that’s messed up. Was it my fault? I didn’t wreck the car, but I let him drive it, so you tell me.
FACT: eventually people are going to ask you to drink. You have two choices:
There is a third initial option – awkward mixture of excuses or “I don’t know”. But this eventually turns into one of the two above.
Let’s assume you want to say yes. OK – I get it. Instead of arguing, I would just ask you to think about a few things. Be honest with yourself:
- What is the real reason you want to do it? You might not like your answer, but I can promise you that the results of ignoring that answer won’t be too tasty either.
- What’s the worst that can happen? A lot. Take it from someone who has experienced worse things than most of you would imagine at the hands of other people because I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, especially paired with alcohol or drugs. My biggest mistakes have all involved alcohol. Now, is that to say that I am anti-drinking? Of course not! But I would not
And if you say no?
- Again, I challenge you to think about what you are really afraid of losing.
- What is the worst that can happen? Someone won’t think you’re cool? Perhaps – although I would go ahead and throw out there that if that person is judging “coolness” on whether or not someone drinks…not only do they need to rewind and go back to preschool but why in the world would we let THAT person be in charge of whether or not we think we’re cool?
FACT: When we live lives controlled by what other people think of use we get stressed out trying to read their minds, making up the worst thoughts they could possibly have about us and then let THOSE decide how confident we feel.
One last thing…before you throw anything out the window just to be accepted by the guy you like who is already wasted at the part…I would challenge you to rethink what he will do for your life if you do finally earn his attention…and ask yourself if earning it is really about him, or about trying to prove something to yourself?
People are looking for others to take a stand & lead. Let it start with you.
PS – if there are ever any specific situations you want to ask about please don’t hesitate to! I will tell you the total truth to any question you ask about my life/past/mistakes – I promise 🙂