He said he cared about me. He said I was everything he ever wanted. So why didn’t he want to date me? Was I not good enough?
We have all experienced this or watched a friend go through it at some point.
5 things to remember when this happens:
- It doesn’t mean you are not good enough.
Who decides what “good enough” means? There are over 160 Million men in the U.S. Which ones get to decide your worth and more importantly, WHY? Does that even make sense?
Do you want to date every guy in your life? Hopefully not. Does mean they are worth less than someone else? No.
- You can’t possibly be right for everyone.
I am obsessed with ice cream. I hate key lime pie. Peanut butter makes everything taste better to me. You couldn’t pay me to put coconut on top of my dessert.
Does that mean that ice cream and peanut butter are better tasting than anything else? Does it mean that key lime pie is gross or coconut is a bad idea? NO. To me, yes, because I (just like everyone else in the world) have my own taste buds that are different than yours, and the guy next to me at work, and the girl down the hall.
God [thankfully] didn’t make us all the same and we can’t be right for everyone.
- Actions speak louder than words.
If he says one thing but does another, what he does is the reality you need to accept right now. Anyone can say (or type) words. Snapchatting is not “making an effort” (I mean, really?).
- It is up to YOU to listen to actions rather than words.
Don’t let yourself pretend words mean something when actions say otherwise. The truth hurts sometimes, but choosing to see the truth now will hurt a lot less than having it blow up in your face down the road.
- Feeling “unwanted” is a warning sign
It’s a flashing light telling you to slow down, double check your self-worth and realize you are valuable enough to be pursued and wanted. When we fail to do this we often find ourselves settling.
- Feeling wanted in the moment is not worth compromising your true worth in the long run.
Logically. Think about this one. Be real with yourself. It’s not worth it and we all know it.
- A relationship game has to have more than one player to be played.
You have a choice in whether or not you play. You are not a game, so don’t let yourself be treated like one.
The Bible says we are wonderfully made. We were handcrafted by the Creator of the universe. Let’s stop wasting our time with people who treat us like we aren’t.
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-15