What Defines You?

The definition of the word ‘define’ in the dictionary (lol, no pun intended) includes:

  • to state or describe exactly the nature, scope or meaning of
  • [to] make up or establish the character of
  • to mark out the boundaries or limits of something
  • to make clear the outline of

Some synonyms are to decide, establish, designate, clarify, explain, and interpret.

Something that defines can be an audible statement or it can be a mental concept; a belief or a thought. It can also be a literal written definition of course, like the one I wrote above.

Those defining statements and beliefs can be about yourself, they can be about someone else, they can be about situations or about experiences.

Picture this:

You’re taking a test and you did not study. So you decide to cheat, a.k.a. look for answers on someone else’s test paper. It could get you in a lot of trouble if someone calls you out, or it might temporarily get you a good grade. But when the final exam comes it won’t really benefit you because it’s their brain that holds the actual information, not yours.

Looking for answers in who and what is beside us. That’s what we’re trying to do when we define each other, isn’t it?

We feel like we are going to fail the test of being good enough, so we have to look somewhere else. We turn the attention on someone else either in our own minds or out loud to others. We feel insecure so we try our hardest to be like the girl he likes, or the girl who at least looks and acts like she has all the answers. If we can somehow get on their level, even if that means bringing them down to the level we think we are on, it feels a little more like winning and the shortcomings don’t sting as badly. 


But hold on. We don’t need to cheat off of someone else’s paper. This is where the literal, written definitions come into play.

What defines you is written in the dictionary of all dictionaries. It was spoken by God and it was proven by death on a cross and sealed with the resurrection.

So if nothing else can define you, that means logically (according to the dictionary) no person, opinion or circumstance can:

  • Define or decide who you are
  • State or describe how much you’re worth (unless it’s in line with what Jesus says)
  • Mark boundaries around who you can be
  • Set limits on how far you can go in life

Jesus died to set us free. That means we are free from being chained to who someone else is, who someone else says we are, or who someone else wants us to be.

Don’t let that truth escape.

I don’t care what you have or have not done, who says or thinks what. Let them talk. Let them think. Then let God take care of the rest because He is the one grading papers.

And here is a tip: you already got an A. Jesus took the test for you. So who cares what answers they are putting.

“For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”” 1 Samuel 16:7

“Know that the Lord, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.” Psalm 100:3

“…he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him…In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace,” Ephesians 1:4-14

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above…as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. ” Colossians 3:1-4, 12


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